Russ/Can- Bi- INTJ-P Canada Eternal fangirl of so many things. In love with books, nature, wonders and knowledge. DFTBA and remember that you do matter at least to me.
“I suppose what I really am is restless. I want to go everywhere, see everything, do everything. I want to find something. Yes, that’s it, I want to find something.”
@laughingfish remember when you were super surprised that there had never been a Catholic president before John F Kennedy, and couldn’t understand why this would have been controversial at that time? Yeah.
Breaking: TikTok is better bc it’s more hostile towards humanity
The lack of video content is what kept us here… I thought we all agree that the best feature of this hellhole was and always will be anonymity.
Tumblr’s not asking for my phone number. It’s not going through my contacts to try and connect me with my fucking colleagues. I can come here and talk about whatever I want without anyone ever seeing my face or hearing my voice. I don’t have to censor myself and hide my interests or enthusiasm out of fear of consequences it might have in my real life.
I think the biggest misunderstanding they have of Tumblr is that they think of it as a social media platform when in actuality it’s a blogging platform with social features.
I’m laughing, but there’s a super useful corollary, which my husband calls “the Red Balloon.” He was a defense lawyer and had a fair number of drug addicts come through, and there is a thing where if you’re like, on your first offense, they’ll do a thing where you can go to treatment and if you complete it they’ll take the conviction off your record.
And he would tell his clients, “Look, everyone’s going to tell you not to do drugs. They’re going to say it over and over again. And it’s like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you’re going to think of a white elephant. But the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon. So you need to find your red balloon. For some people it’s yoga. For others it’s woodworking. For some people it’s scrapbooking or gardening or any of a long list of things to do. They focus on that, it’s a lot easier to succeed in ignoring the white elephant.”
So yeah, “watch yourself” is one thing… but the better idea is to watch something else. (Even if it’s fanfic about werewolves fucking.)
It’s a form of productive dissociation, and is super, super helpful.
It’s easy for me to get bogged down in how much pain I’m in… but some of the most painful periods of my life have also been the most productive, writing-wise, because writing is one of my red balloons.
There is a phrase I use A LOT in my parenting and my son gets very sick of it, but it’s true:
The thing you practise is the thing you get good at.
You may not intentionally be practicing “being grumpy” but if you don’t put effort into practicing “not being grumpy” then I’m afraid that’s what you’re doing. It’s hard! It’s really hard! Sometimes, for some things, it’s pretty much impossible and that sucks!
But being carefully aware that you are going to get good at the things you do most of is a good way to be more careful of what those things are. If that makes sense.
You gotta appreciate sometimes how tumblr works in such a way that everyone who wants to reblog this interesting or useful psychological advice is also forced to reblog the thing about werewolf fucking
"I am going through something so horrible right now. So stupendously laced with pain. That even the dark begins to look like light, amidst these terrible ratios."
“I wanted to be truly great, but instead, I broke. Like glass, I broke. I broke through every ache. Through every pain, I broke. I broke into a fragmented dream.”
people talk about abuse like it’s pathologically aberrant behavior but it’s more like the logical conclusion of a variety of structural and interpersonal factors, particularly the nuclear family model, which depends on gender ideology as well as the codification of children as property. but it’s much easier in many ways to perpetuate the idea that some people are “just evil” (/diagnosable) than to acknowledge how the behaviors we call abuse are not only culturally excused but actually encouraged and enforced. of course, that would implicate virtually all adults in a complex and nuanced way instead of demarcating a specific group of Bad Men To Be Punished, so.
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